Today, 12% of 55 to 64 year-olds report using an online dating site or mobile dating app versus only 6% in 2013.If you are going to venture into online dating, here are some findings and observations that may prove helpful: What to Bring to Online Dating The best things to bring to online dating are curiosity, self-reflection, patience and a sense of humor.Know thyself…and get a quick read of others Did you know that you can tell a lot about a person if you know what section of the newspaper (for those of us who still read our papers rather than the online version) he or she picks up first?I should have known what I was in for when my soon-to-be husband consistently reached for two sections—sports and travel. As for me, well I guess I’m what you might call a “closeted romantic”: people are always shocked to learn that the first section I reach for in Sunday’s NY Times is always and invariably the wedding and engagement announcement section.Take that heartfelt knowledge and look for another sage soul who shares your interests and passions.Look at relationships like a series of puzzle pieces making up the picture of your life—there are many different pieces in your puzzle—take some of the pressure off by reminding yourself that a romantic relationship is just one. Be thoughtful about re-entry into the dating world. : Barbara Waxman, President and founder of The Odyssey Group, works with business owners, executives and individuals increase their leadership capacity and their ability to deliver concrete results.I’d like to propose that there is actually a middle ground and that the thought process and actions reflected in this middle ground thinking will yield two critical outcomes: enjoyment during (most of ) the dating process and a higher probability of achieving the results you are looking for.
Jeff Cohen’s Valuing Your Authentic Self Perhaps the most daunting task when on-line dating in midlife is valuing and expanding your authentic self.
While many mid-lifers cringe with the initial thought of online dating, the reality is that more and more are trying it.
Online dating use among 55 to 64-year-olds has risen substantially since the last Pew Research Center survey on the topic.
Let go of limiting beliefs, and you’ll greatly increase your chances of meeting compatible people. What do you think about older women who date much younger men? I have dated men ten years older and ten years younger.
— Most of us want to have some degree of control in our relationships.
Much like a financial portfolio, think about how you invest your time now; then reconsider how much time and energy you actually want to invest in each area of your life.