He returned to College Park last August, where I met him as I was arriving for the first time.He is back to complete a graduate degree here in the U.I have only been here since August 2012, but I have already seen several different ways that people handle their love affairs.It seems to me there are three types of relationships (besides the infamous ‘one night stand’) when studying abroad in the U. “It’s just a bit of fun.”I know several exchange students who have regularly hooked-up - with other exchange students and with Americans - with no strings attached, and it really was just a bit of fun for them all.But while this is the easiest type of relationship to fall into, it also has a lot of potential for heartbreak.Two Europeans I know, one from the north of the continent and the other from the south, ended up in what was supposed to be a no strings attached relationship last semester.I moved away from home to a university in Liverpool, only to find out 6 months later that I would be leaving again to spend a year in College Park, Maryland.
As much as I love reading those stories, from my own years spent in Spain I have learned that dating abroad is not all sunshine and fairytales, and it has been idealized online far too often.
They got together, intending just to have some fun while they were in the States. After enjoying some months of this, they eventually became exclusive, even though they both knew they were just in it for the fun and it was destined not to last.
As far as I know they went back to their respective countries as singletons.
Rather than setting out for “just a bit of fun” as my European friends had done, she and her American partner decided early on that this was more serious – there was no denying this would be a relationship.
But this type of relationship poses its risks too, because it will be even more devastating to split once the date of departure comes.
S., but the lure of love definitely sweetened the deal of his return.