I also think gyms or other social environments — like consistent classes — there’s a good sense of community in some of those environments.I love going to community rec centers or community art events because [they often offer] pottery classes, photography classes, dance classes etc.Sometimes they’re specific to couples, but more often they’re just geared toward individuals…so I think that can be an awesome place to go and meet people [who share your interests].I think, though, if you can go into any experience with the intention to just be mindful of how often you’re closed off to experiences [and connections] — that’s what I really try to incorporate with my individual clients.I can’t speak on this with personal experience because I’ve been in a relationship for almost 10 years, but I keep hearing over and over again that people are trying to find connection and they can’t be authentic.People are going on date after date after date and they really want to find a connection, but that takes time, and [their dates] don’t want to go out again or they just want sex.
That’s why we decided to ask an expert for some millennial dating advice.
Meet Alysha Jeney, a 30-year-old married relationship counselor based in Denver, Colorado.
Yep, you read that right — she’s a counselor, a millennial herself, she’s in a successful long-term relationship. Jeney, who is also the founder of the subscription-based Modern Love Box for couples, has been with her partner for about a decade, and has been in private practice for three years.
But I think that if you could be really open and honest about some of those fears right off the bat…that’s going to save you a lot of time and heartbreak.
[which allows women to choose from a pool of men who have already expressed interest]…And there’s [another app] that’s more about a spiritual connection, not necessarily a religious one but more of a soul connection, and it’s called If you have a dog, I think going to dog parks and trying to engage with people [is great], because that’s a really friendly, social environment where you can connect with other people.
Sometimes yes, it’s the biological clock, and yes, just feeling lonely.