New college couples tend to rush from the getting-to-know-you stage to the practically-living-together one. And the more intense it gets, the more it hurts when it ends.So hold off before stocking your guy's shower caddy with your Venus razor.Just like there might be things you're not telling him about your life, he could be hiding stuff too.What if that hot econ major has anger issues or a closet cocaine addiction?But I'm still not comfortable with Rosin's assertion that "feminist progress...depends on the existence of hookup culture."The career-focused and hyper-confident types of women upon whom Rosin focuses her argument reappeared in Kate Taylor's July 2013 feature "She Can Play That Game Too." In Taylor's story, female students at Penn speak proudly about the "cost-benefit" analyses and "low-investment costs" of hooking up as compared to being in committed relationships.In theory, hookup culture empowers millennial women with the time and space to focus on our ambitious goals while still giving us the benefit of sexual experience, right? As Maddie, my 22-year-old friend from Harvard (who, FYI, graduated with highest honors and is now at Yale Law School), puts it: "The 'I don't have time for dating' argument is bullshit.Meet guys and have fun, but stick with your friends at parties so you can watch out for one another. Relationships move faster in college, physically and emotionally.Basically, three months of college dating (where you can have breakfast, lunch, dinner, and late-night pizza with a guy if you want) is like a year of high school dating (when you're living with your parents' restrictions).
Overdressed for the nonoccasion, I quelled my frustration with Trader Joe's maple clusters and reruns of The next morning, I texted Nate again — this time to acknowledge our failed plan: "Bummer about last night. The avoidance — and occasional tight-lipped smiles — continued through the fall semester. He was drunk and apologized for hurting my feelings that night in the fall. The culture of campus dating is broken..at least broken-ish. College kids do it, have always done it, and will always do it, whether they're in relationships or not.At the typical beer-soaked party (even if you're sober), you can't always tell which guys want a one-night thing and which ones truly like you.If you've been drinking, there's not always a trusted friend there to stop you from going too far with a guy you just met.As someone who has done both the dating and the casual-sex thing, hookups are much more draining of my emotional faculties..actually, my time."Sure, many women enjoy casual sex — and that's a valuable thing to point out given how old-fashioned society's attitudes on romance can still be.The fact that women now invest in their ambitions rather than spend college looking for a husband (the old MRS degree) is a good thing.Girls on my floor define a night's success by how many people we kiss." With so many different types of guys around, it's tempting to sample them all! Hookups can be fun, but a lot of times they're mini bombs that explode in one of two ways: into a relationship (rare!