Dealing with rejection in dating

On Monday, Buzzfeed writer Grace Spelman publicized Harry Potter fanboy and (more disconcertingly) Feminspire co-founder Benjamin Schoan’s online flirtation-turned-aggression toward her.

You just need to open your eyes and see the situation for what it is. While the act of rejection itself does exist, if we don't allow ourselves to be moved by it, then it doesn't really matter, does it? If you don't feel or experience something for yourself, then it might as well not exist at all.

A likely byproduct of a heteronormative narrative in which men are expected to play pursuers, they might put themselves in the line of rejection fire more frequently.

A 1997 study among young people, for instance, found 16- to 20-year-old men experienced more unreturned attraction and love, compared to episodes of mutual attraction as well as women in the same age group.

We fool ourselves into believing that someone cares when in fact this person doesn't.

And as the Internet was reminded this week, it’s particularly dicey for straight women turning down straight men.

She writes:“The whole exchange is pretty emblematic of the inherent difficulties of rejecting men, both online and off.

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