He's thus rather uniquely positioned to compare the pros and cons of each (except Darwin and Hobart, sorry)."Generally, Australian men are a little less socially and romantically savvy, compared to Europeans and even Americans," says James."Dating skills and social intelligence are certainly not subjects taught at school, which is a bit unfortunate. He theorises that any male with a "bit of go in him" leaves Adelaide by age 21, leaving many extremely hot girls to fight it out for whoever's left (that'd be the dude with the mullet)."There also seems to be a decent population of attractive, international students in the city because of Adelaide Uni," he says."The main negative for guys is that local, more 'enlightened' men, report struggling to find an interesting conversation with attractive women."It may be a little politically incorrect but there are hot Aussie bogan chicks galore with nowhere near enough attractive men to go around."Hello, Jetstar? Sydney "For guys who know what they are doing and who tick most of the boxes, Sydney is very easy.If you weren't blessed with socially confident parents or, friends who did really well with women when you were at school, it can be a very difficult thing to learn as an adult."In this country we tend to live in large houses, in sprawling car-dominated cities, everyone held at a distance; it's not a tight-knit living arrangement like many European cities."We've also inherited some of the 'sexual repression' of the English, as well as their preference for dealing with all romantic and sexual matters after quite a few drinks. Well, if you're a single man in Perth, James feels sorry for you. Men have a huge number attractive, intelligent women (who will only date a certain kind of guy) and a large number of tourists to choose from," says James.He also says that, because of the huge focus many Sydneysiders have on their careers, many professional men aren't particularly masculine and many professional women aren't particularly feminine."Most exercise regimes seem to focus on the gym/running for both sexes rather than, say, masculine sports for men and/or ballet and salsa for women," says James."I regularly see groups of eight immaculately-presented women sitting face-to-face at a corner table, seemingly expecting some super-confident, handsome guy to come up and make a sincere attempt at getting to know them in front of her seven friends," says James. Brisbane James says it's roughly a 50-50 gender split of attractive people in Brisvegas."Obviously it's got great weather a lot of the year.Guys who learn a bit about style and go beyond the printed T-shirt once in a while might do really well," says James."There's plenty of party action on the Gold Coast; skinny, buxom platinum blondes and partying tourists galore and they're just waiting for strong confident and athletic locals to come along and join them."Again for any brighter guys who are struggling in Brisbane you may want to give Sydney a try; a little bit of masculinity can go a fair way in the better suburbs, particularly if you up it in the style stakes," he says.Having returned once again to the dating trenches, I've been surprised by just how many attractive women there are in Sydney and how few of them want to have sex with me.This is largely my fault, seeing as I only go out once a fortnight to my local RSL, then proceed to drink the bar dry of Jameson; so I'm not always the most attractive prospect.The inflight meal came and it was the absolute worst. I told him about the amazing meat pie I’d had on my Qantas Link flights between Perth and Exmouth and because I can’t help but take photos of almost everything I eat (it really is quite the mystery as to why I’m single right?!? Two complete strangers having met only 2 hours ago.) I showed him the photographic evidence of said pie. My recent travels, the love of my life (my car), the racetrack…all whilst the wine flowed. It was a night flight and the cabin was dim and we were clearly pissing other people off with how loud we were talking and laughing. And I’m sure the rest of the plane noticed as suddenly instead of lots of giggling we were silent.
James and his team at Social Coach have worked all over Australia helping men with their social and romantic skills and also sniffed around nightclubs and bars in all our major cities. Adelaide"Seriously, hot girls will come and pick you up if you can dress OK and hold their eye contact," says James.
We surveyed hundreds of Coffee Meets Bagel members in Sydney and Melbourne to give you a closer look at what dating is like in these cities that are just a hop and skip away from each other.
To the easier city to date in to the more promiscuous, here’s what we found…
If you're not skilled or bold enough to try to talk to girls during the day it can be a really difficult city," says James.(iv) "Kings Cross sucks in a huge percentage of the city's most attractive women at night, leaving far less for other places.
So, if the Cross is not your style, you'd think hot girls don't go to bars much."(v) "The extremely high cost of living and spectacular property prices understandably can make some women fairly cautious in their choice of mate.
I’ve got a need for speed and a taste for adventure so I’ve been pretty busy on these trips and not really had much time for men.