Some reports indicate the relationship between the married couple was already over by the time Cowell moved in. While many details remain unknown, this revelation raises a question: Is your friend’s ex always off-limits?“If your friend is totally over his ex, has no romantic feelings for her, and wouldn’t mind being around the two of you socially, that could work,” muses Nina Atwood, author of “Temptations of the Single Girl.” “But look at all the conditions that have to be met!Relationship coach and author Lisa Hayes told us, “You’ve got to get the green light. Instead of simply asking if it’s OK, you should instead ask a more thought-provoking and conversation-stimulating question.For example, ‘How While this situation might yield an unfavorable response based on the rules of guy code, Jennifer Kelman, LCSW and relationship expert, says that although it might be considered faux pas, it’s unnatural to think it can’t or won’t happen.“If they begin to date the woman you were seeing, it can feel like an extra knife in the back. My rule of thumb is that it's fine unless it is a very good friend.
“You can try to handle it like an adult, being open and honest – but you will go down a notch on the friendship ladder,” agrees Nana Wereko-Brobby, director of Social Concierge, a London dating service.
Such a situation, of course, can be tricky, and must be handled with care.
As with most situations, the decision that’s right for you will depend on your personal relationships, morals, values and beliefs.
More times than not, going after your buddy’s ex is off limits and fully violates any type of guy code by which you might abide.
But every once in a while, the universe speaks to a person and lets him know that, although it seems wrong at first, there might be a bigger reason your friend dated this person in the first place – maybe it was to connect the two of you, instead.
The news about Simon Cowell getting it on with his good friend’s wife — or estranged wife, depending on who you talk to — has sparked a great debate once again.