As I have met new women, I find myself attracted to the layers, to their own brokenness, to our common ground and the resilience that comes with life experience. I think I see an inspirational quote every minute on Instagram, specifically about overcoming our failures, learning from mistakes, and being a better person each day.Not that it requires having been through a divorce … These mantras can get tiresome, but that doesn’t make them less true.Over time, I’ve learned I need to be firm on a few things I need in a partner.I’m hoping these will be lessons that stick, so if the right person comes along I won’t be too confused to recognize her. Attraction and chemistry are definitely important, but with all the lessons life has thrown my way, I find myself appreciating time with people who stand for something. It’s because I did exactly what experts recommend: take it slow, not force a new guy on the kids and follow their lead. We were hiking through Cranbrook on a sunny Saturday and I squirmed as he spoke the words. So you can imagine my surprise that they’re ready to create our own version of the before I am.
They have a wonderful mom, and no one is replacing her in their lives.
Getting into a relationship and expecting a person to understand this strange dichotomy often seems too much to ask.
I have been pretty lucky though; I’ve met some truly amazing women, even if at the time I didn’t realize just how special they were. And I know I was too busy overthinking and questioning my choices.
Two-plus years out of a bad marriage, I’m in no rush to find husband No. When I do take that step, I want to be certain it’s a lifelong, healthy relationship that’s good for me and good for my three kids.
With a 50-percent divorce rate, America is seeing more mixed families than ever before.
They are sharp little people and can tell when I get excited.