The guilt may be your conscience speaking; it's a voice worth heeding.While it's possible to consider two men at once, it's not advisable for the reasons you've already raised: It's difficult to do it in a way that's honoring to them, which dings your reputation and leaves you feeling guilty. You've said it might be too early in the relationships to have to choose, and I suspect you're right. I have fun with both of them, and they both show signs of being a godly husband.
When Steve and I were growing in friendship, along with a great group of other singles in our graduate school program, I knew it would be impossible to move forward in our relationship (past friendship) until, and unless, he considered what we had together apart from all the other possibilities. Relate to them that way, and you'll save yourself (and them) a lot of heartache and sorrow. Resist the temptation to race ahead of where you are in .
If one gets serious, then I have to hurt the other girl by cutting that relationship off.
If both get serious then I've got a problem on my hands.
Who am I to think that these women are not playing the field as well? How stupid would I feel if I didn't play the field and later found out that one or both of these girls was seeing other guys too? Do you think it's a fair thing to do, or do you think it's risky/dangerous? Should I tell the women I'm seeing other people or keep it secret?
Is it two-timing if I don't tell them both the truth?
As nice as it is to have two men interested in you (especially as opposed to men), it quickly becomes complicated and is often marked by guilt and anxiety.