But when we wrote The Rules seven years ago, little was known about online dating-many even considered it dangerous -- so we did not even include it.
By 1997, when we wrote The Rules II, there was a little more interest in online dating and we wrote a short chapter telling women the pitfalls of this chat-intensive dating method, how to best apply The Rules, and how to play it safe.
As many of you know, our first book, The Rules, spawned a worldwide movement.
Readers began -- and continue -- to set up free online and offline support groups around the world and visit our website ( at the rate of over 400,000 hits a month.
And the book seemed to imply that most women were lowly, desperate creatures.
They spend hours on the computer every day in online relationships or chat rooms or just answering their e-mail.
The only problem is that online dating has become a little like a bad bar scene.
Women meeting new men at business conferences, birthday parties, or clubs give out their e-mail addresses and also take men's e-mail addresses, and then find themselves in an e-mail relationship with a man.
These women are just as prone to making the same mistakes online as women using online dating services and chat rooms -- mistakes that can ruin their relationships.
) a man who treats you with the respect and dignity you deserve.