To Licht, it seems “pretentious, unless you're actually British.” Schwalbe suggests a test: Would you say it to people in person? “Hate, hate, hate,” says Licht, though she says that she hates the supposedly more casual abbreviated version — “Rgds” — even more.
“It's like you're so busy you can't even spell it.” Schwalbe, however, doesn't mind it.
All three experts agree that "best" is among the safest possible choices, inoffensive, and almost universally appropriate. Sign-offs to avoid in most situations: “Fine if it's for a favor the person has done, but obnoxious if it's a command disguised as premature gratitude,” Schwalbe says. It “comes off as not really that thankful,” she says. It's "even worse then 'thanks' if it's a command and not genuine gratitude," he says.I’ve enjoyed chatting with you, but I don’t think we’re a match. Some people flame others by sending e-mails, warning people of a person’s supposed bad character. He is [insert issue here].”) Although you could sue them for defamation, who needs the grief?The best way to avoid this sort of thing is to kill people with kindness, even if they don’t deserve it.Say that you’re in the middle of an Instant Messaging (IM) exchange, and you realize that the prospect just isn’t a match. And for the record, the inappropriate actions are Regarding those first two actions, your prospect would probably think you had computer problems and keep trying to reach you, which isn’t what you want. And regarding the porno action, sending pornographic material can be construed as harassment and get you into a heap of legal trouble.The Internet-appropriate action to take is to simply say“I need to stop now. If it’s an argument telling you why you are a match, simply sign off. Regarding the third action, no stranger is worth any emotional investment on your part, especially negative ones. If someone has really incensed you, avoid further trouble even though you’re anonymous. They are unlikely to go postal on you, but some people are sufficiently sick to do some serious libel and slander.Notice that the word is common, not polite or considerate.