Everybody else – the beta males, the socially awkward, the chubby, husky dudes, the symetrically challenged – they’re left holding the bag of dudes who aren’t exactly making the cover of People’s Sexiest Man shopping with their girlfriends and wives. ” I hear some of you cry, at which point we’re right back to the same issue as before: “the impossibly hot woman I want to date/sleep with won’t date .” So straight talk: societally accepted standards of beauty kind of suck.They promote literally impossible standards in myriad ways – both overt and subtle.Because men supposedly can’t wander into the mythical Bar (and it’s a “a woman can wander into a bar” scenario) and wander out five minutes later with a woman eager to jump his bones, women by default have greater power when it comes to dating.Men have to compete in order to win her approval while a woman gets to pick and choose who she wants based on whatever arbitrary standards she feels like in the moment.In online dating, for example, the number of men on dating sites tends to easily outnumber the women.
And to be perfectly frank, if all a woman wants is to get off, vibrators are safer, easier and aren’t going to use the last of the milk in their coffee the morning after.
Now ask her just how many of those come from people she’d want to talk to at all, never mind go on a date with.
It stands to reason that since women have all of the power when it comes to dating, they get to pick and choose from men who get laid are alpha males with lantern jaws and six-pack abs.
The problem with asking this question is that it assumes that women and men have the same goals when it comes to sex.
Guys frequently get hung up on numbers; how many people have you slept with, how quickly can you get a woman to sleep with you. The problem is that men are viewing women through the prism of the male experience: the goal of getting sex as quickly as possible, as easily as possible.
To start with, there are plenty of women out there who aren’t rolling into a bar and rolling out with a bedmate.